Thanks Judy. I am glad and grateful you took the time with it. These are things I've quietly done for a decade and a half and wasn't planning on sharing. But I keep hearing. "Walk as you are. Share who you are." Your encouragement means a lot more than you know.
Wonderful story, Megan. May all your love and kindness come back to you as you walk the path of Karma and practice what you believe.
Talking is easy, but it's the doing that matters. It's the doing that changes people who've been hurt and need to see and feel what love looks like in action. Thank you for being so active.
Thank you martin. I hear a lot in my mediation and inner voice: walk as you are. walk as you know to be true. I find that my work is to integrate all those whisperings. its one thing to know, its another to do. Not the easy path but i do my best. Thank you for your love. The gifts really do go round and round.
I can also imagine how hard it can be to be one of the few people capable of seeing the hurt of and holding space for everyone else. Sending you a big hug, mama, because you also deserve the same 🤗
Love you so much sister. Thank you for seeing me in this. Yes. with my hands full and shoulders carrying much… I still do my best to show up as I am. I deserve the same and have been sitting in a mantra for months. “I deserve to be fully supported in all way as I walk my purposeful path with joy” So thank you for this serendipity and blessing.
Not sure when I’ll be in Peru next, but I wish I was there with you so I could make you dinner and babysit 🥹 I know you’ve got this but I know it’s also hard 🩷
This was such a beautiful story that moved me a lot … thank you for sharing this and for doing the best you can…we all need to show kindness both to ourselves and others.
Thank you Angela, I've learned through many helpful people. we can all be guardian angels here and now on this planet. and yes... the kindness to ourselves is the anchor and the refill that allows. us to pour out. Huge hug.
Not only did you care for his wounds, you showed him just how much he is worth. Self worth seemed to be lacking in his life.
I don’t know where he will go from here but you taught him the best lesson ever, even if I would quote it backwards, Love Yourself As You Love Your Neighbor!
Gosh I love the inverse equation of the golden rule. Thanks for taking the time to comment and read. I really hope he knows he’s loved and starts to love himself. One more little drop into the ocean of love
Perhaps your children, at the age they are now, have not yet fully realized the profound influence that a maternal figure—even when she is not their biological mother—can have on our growth and development. A mother provides containment, guidance, and emotional grounding. When she is "good enough," she helps us regulate our destructive impulses and navigate life's challenges.
Your son learned a valuable lesson: not everyone expresses themselves through kindness and goodness. The young man at the pharmacy learned another important lesson: not everyone we wish would love us actually does.
There is no escaping these truths. It does no good to fight against them, become consumed by anger, or turn fear into emotional and behavioral outbursts. Reality teaches us that we do not always get the life we want or the people we long for.
What we can choose, however, is how we respond to these circumstances.
Aw Rolando. I hear some days, "they may not understand to day, but the seeds you plant will grow" It was beautiful to see a reflection in real time for my boys to get a perspective from someone outside of me. May we all become this love that we wish to see in the world.
Children can be cruel. Don’t take their behavior toward you to heart. Yes, I know it’s not easy. I say this from my own experience. I have a 26-year-old son. He used to say he hated me, that I’d ruined his life, and that I wasn’t living the right way. But I can see that he can’t do without me.
aw thanks. All good. I knew deeply their hurts were acting out. I'm happy to be with him through the big feels and set some boundaries if things go out of balance. Hope you and your son grow in love.
It's insane how one incident changes the trajectory of a person isn't it? I'm so so glad I came across your story almost first thing in the morning Megan! So beautiful! Thank you for being an awesome mama and such a inspiring person!
Shruthi, thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment here. It means more than you know. I never know what impact little actions will have but i know that love goes out in waves further than we can see. receive your incredibly kind words with an open heart. Thank you
I have a number of broken bones somewhere in the vicinity of 27 many due to a variety of cycling accidents). When discussing this amongst a group of coworkers, I mentioned that I can be careless. My boss in the judgmental tone he often used, said, "There's definitely something else going on there."
I was annoyed with him to the point that I avoided contact with him for a month.
Now I think I know what he was talking about. Thank you for your post.
wow. thank you for the bravery of sharing this. I'm sorry your boss was judgemental and used That tone. That sucks. There are a millions things i could share. but i feel like you already know. You know you better than anyone knows you. I just want you to know i see you. No judgement. Just caring that you'd take the time with this and even more to share something so real to you.
You know, that young guy probably never felt the loving guidance of a good mom in his life.
There is a guy on instagram who teaches young boys how to be men. He shows them what to do when a toilet is plugged and how they have a responsibility to clean up the mess before their family gets home. He teaches them how to behave during a traffic stop, when checking into a hotel, how to pay bills, and even how to raise chickens to help their families. The boys are disciplined and answer “yes sir” or “no sir” to his questions and the boys are really engaged, all of which reminds me of our responsibility to train kids how to be good, responsible adults.
Your actions that day is probably still rolling around in the young man’s thoughts. Who knows how you influenced him and what he will become in the long run. I have no doubt you helped change the trajectory of his life. What a thing to experience.
Gosh I love that. It flashed in my mind to do a page to be a momma to people but mostly it’s listening and holding and showing up. Hearing the things that are important to them and paying attention to where they are emotionally and mentally. It’s such a holding receptive quality o think. I do think of those examples in my life who just saw me and helped me trust myself and give me that attention that made me feel like I mattered through my life. I wrote a piece about mother energy in lived examples and I hope we can all do that in our way whether blood and family or a stranger passing through. Love you man
I often meet young men who are really trying to make something of their lives, but were never taught man skills by a dad, and I kind of ache to take them on for about six months or so and teach them the basic 50 skills they need to get started. Maybe even start a nonprofit: Switter’s Man School.
No, and it too many ways, they are neglected. Maybe that will be my second act in life, now that my kids are settled into life and even giving advice to me.
Such a beautiful story Megan. It's remarkable how transformative kindness and compassion is for us. Thank you for sharing this.
Thanks Judy. I am glad and grateful you took the time with it. These are things I've quietly done for a decade and a half and wasn't planning on sharing. But I keep hearing. "Walk as you are. Share who you are." Your encouragement means a lot more than you know.
Wonderful story, Megan. May all your love and kindness come back to you as you walk the path of Karma and practice what you believe.
Talking is easy, but it's the doing that matters. It's the doing that changes people who've been hurt and need to see and feel what love looks like in action. Thank you for being so active.
Thank you martin. I hear a lot in my mediation and inner voice: walk as you are. walk as you know to be true. I find that my work is to integrate all those whisperings. its one thing to know, its another to do. Not the easy path but i do my best. Thank you for your love. The gifts really do go round and round.
Wow. The timing couldn’t be more serendipitous.
I can also imagine how hard it can be to be one of the few people capable of seeing the hurt of and holding space for everyone else. Sending you a big hug, mama, because you also deserve the same 🤗
Love you so much sister. Thank you for seeing me in this. Yes. with my hands full and shoulders carrying much… I still do my best to show up as I am. I deserve the same and have been sitting in a mantra for months. “I deserve to be fully supported in all way as I walk my purposeful path with joy” So thank you for this serendipity and blessing.
Not sure when I’ll be in Peru next, but I wish I was there with you so I could make you dinner and babysit 🥹 I know you’ve got this but I know it’s also hard 🩷
Love you and thank you for the beautiful intention. if you want to buy me a tea. i shall use it for our little takeout jar that we do sometimes.
A terrific teaching, Megan. Unsurprisingly.
Thank you for your Kindness Gary. I really appreciate the time you took to read and comment and encourage me here. .Huge hug from Peru
And a huge hug back to you, Megan!
This was such a beautiful story that moved me a lot … thank you for sharing this and for doing the best you can…we all need to show kindness both to ourselves and others.
Thank you Angela, I've learned through many helpful people. we can all be guardian angels here and now on this planet. and yes... the kindness to ourselves is the anchor and the refill that allows. us to pour out. Huge hug.
You did a marvelous thing thing, Megan!
Not only did you care for his wounds, you showed him just how much he is worth. Self worth seemed to be lacking in his life.
I don’t know where he will go from here but you taught him the best lesson ever, even if I would quote it backwards, Love Yourself As You Love Your Neighbor!
Gosh I love the inverse equation of the golden rule. Thanks for taking the time to comment and read. I really hope he knows he’s loved and starts to love himself. One more little drop into the ocean of love
Thank you for your kindness, Megan.
Perhaps your children, at the age they are now, have not yet fully realized the profound influence that a maternal figure—even when she is not their biological mother—can have on our growth and development. A mother provides containment, guidance, and emotional grounding. When she is "good enough," she helps us regulate our destructive impulses and navigate life's challenges.
Your son learned a valuable lesson: not everyone expresses themselves through kindness and goodness. The young man at the pharmacy learned another important lesson: not everyone we wish would love us actually does.
There is no escaping these truths. It does no good to fight against them, become consumed by anger, or turn fear into emotional and behavioral outbursts. Reality teaches us that we do not always get the life we want or the people we long for.
What we can choose, however, is how we respond to these circumstances.
That is true wisdom.
Aw Rolando. I hear some days, "they may not understand to day, but the seeds you plant will grow" It was beautiful to see a reflection in real time for my boys to get a perspective from someone outside of me. May we all become this love that we wish to see in the world.
Children can be cruel. Don’t take their behavior toward you to heart. Yes, I know it’s not easy. I say this from my own experience. I have a 26-year-old son. He used to say he hated me, that I’d ruined his life, and that I wasn’t living the right way. But I can see that he can’t do without me.
aw thanks. All good. I knew deeply their hurts were acting out. I'm happy to be with him through the big feels and set some boundaries if things go out of balance. Hope you and your son grow in love.
It's insane how one incident changes the trajectory of a person isn't it? I'm so so glad I came across your story almost first thing in the morning Megan! So beautiful! Thank you for being an awesome mama and such a inspiring person!
Shruthi, thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment here. It means more than you know. I never know what impact little actions will have but i know that love goes out in waves further than we can see. receive your incredibly kind words with an open heart. Thank you
I have a number of broken bones somewhere in the vicinity of 27 many due to a variety of cycling accidents). When discussing this amongst a group of coworkers, I mentioned that I can be careless. My boss in the judgmental tone he often used, said, "There's definitely something else going on there."
I was annoyed with him to the point that I avoided contact with him for a month.
Now I think I know what he was talking about. Thank you for your post.
wow. thank you for the bravery of sharing this. I'm sorry your boss was judgemental and used That tone. That sucks. There are a millions things i could share. but i feel like you already know. You know you better than anyone knows you. I just want you to know i see you. No judgement. Just caring that you'd take the time with this and even more to share something so real to you.
Megan, you are the genuine article! It’s so encouraging to find a friend like you who practices what she teaches. Bless you, my sister.
Love you friend. I do my best to walk the walk. as I am. Huge hugs. and thank you for seeing me and loving me here. You da best.
You know, that young guy probably never felt the loving guidance of a good mom in his life.
There is a guy on instagram who teaches young boys how to be men. He shows them what to do when a toilet is plugged and how they have a responsibility to clean up the mess before their family gets home. He teaches them how to behave during a traffic stop, when checking into a hotel, how to pay bills, and even how to raise chickens to help their families. The boys are disciplined and answer “yes sir” or “no sir” to his questions and the boys are really engaged, all of which reminds me of our responsibility to train kids how to be good, responsible adults.
Your actions that day is probably still rolling around in the young man’s thoughts. Who knows how you influenced him and what he will become in the long run. I have no doubt you helped change the trajectory of his life. What a thing to experience.
Gosh I love that. It flashed in my mind to do a page to be a momma to people but mostly it’s listening and holding and showing up. Hearing the things that are important to them and paying attention to where they are emotionally and mentally. It’s such a holding receptive quality o think. I do think of those examples in my life who just saw me and helped me trust myself and give me that attention that made me feel like I mattered through my life. I wrote a piece about mother energy in lived examples and I hope we can all do that in our way whether blood and family or a stranger passing through. Love you man
I often meet young men who are really trying to make something of their lives, but were never taught man skills by a dad, and I kind of ache to take them on for about six months or so and teach them the basic 50 skills they need to get started. Maybe even start a nonprofit: Switter’s Man School.
See what you started, my dear friend?
That sounds beautiful. Men don’t have initiations as they did in tribal times. To really step in mentally from boyhood to manhood
No, and it too many ways, they are neglected. Maybe that will be my second act in life, now that my kids are settled into life and even giving advice to me.
An amazing story that resonates across global society. Well done....
Thank you so much for reading dear friend. Sending a huge hug from Peru.
You always bring transcendental truth.
Thank you for sharing this. I’m humbled to be able to share little story and insights along the way.
It was a real riveting story. We have so far to go as humans....
Beautiful light on this glorious day. Thanks for sharing!
Melissa. Girl. I love you. thanks for taking the time to commen.
❤️❤️❤️
Love you Mel.